Is 'World of Warcraft' the future of online dating?

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Well now, what's a guy like you doing in a place like this?

Forget Match.com, eHarmony, OkCupid or whatever online dating service you might turn to in hopes of meeting the love of your life (or at least someone you can stand long enough to hang out with for a week or two).  

The New York Times has profiled couples who met while playing "World of Warcraft" – the massively popular online role-playing game – and the article comes off as a good argument for why "WoW" and games like it are far better places to meet people than online dating sites.


Reporter Stephanie Rosenbloom explains how various couples met, got to know each other and fell in love in the digital land of Azeroth. And she points out that while a game like "WoW" boasts more than 12 million players, a dating site like Match.com has less than 2 million subscribers.

But it's not just a numbers game when it comes to matters of the heart. Rosenbloom's article highlights some very good reasons why stories of online gamer love are increasingly common.

She interviewed Ramona Pringle, an interactive producer for the PBS project "Digital Nation," and Pringle points out the game requires players to work together.

Multiplayer games encourage such alliances. The beginner’s guide to World of Warcraft notes that you can go it alone, "but by going it alone, you won’t be able to master some of the game’s tougher challenges, you will likely take longer to reach the endgame, and you won’t have access to the game’s most powerful magical treasures.” Ms. Pringle thinks that is analogous to love.

The article also points out how playing "WoW" together can make some potentially awkward conversations go far easier.

Other gamers have [said] that typing their feelings or flirtations is less awkward than saying them aloud. That can lead to more-honest conversations, and fewer misunderstandings. It’s why many players believe that they come to know each other faster and better than, say, people who meet over a few dates.

Meanwhile, sure, "WoW" may take place in an entirely fictional locale ... but those who visit this online universe can find some pretty romantic scenery. Rosenblom describes how two players who fell in love "became inseparable, spending hours lounging beside by waterfalls and strolling through parks."

Awwww.

Over at women's website Jezebel, writer Anna North notes that "like any method of courtship, dating via Warcraft has its downsides." But she says she wouldn't be surprised if one of the big online datings services introduced a role-playing game in the near future.

"Just as online dating has lost much of its stigma, online gaming is coming into its own as a legitimate pastime where people can not only storm castles and pitch battles, but also talk, get to know each other, and even find love," she says.

Of course, games don't have to be played online to inspire love. After all, this couple recently got engaged thanks to their mutual love of the console game "Borderlands." And I speak from experience when I say that married couples can  find video games to be cheaper (and more fun) than therapy when it comes to working on their long-term connection.

But there's one thing the New York Times article doesn't say much about that I think is probably the real reason why "WoW" just might be a better place to meet someone than, say, Match.com. The thing is, playing "WoW" — or any game really — simply gives you something to do with the person you're interested in.

As most people with any relationship experience will probably tell you, the best way to meet someone you'll truly connect with is while doing something you love. Few people love surfing dating web sites. But plenty of people love to, say, go dancing, go to the theater and, yes, play games.

If you meet someone while playing a game, at least you know you've got that in common. And what could be more exciting than slaying a dragon on a first date?

(Thanks to Jezebel for the heads up.)

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There are no girls on the interwebs.

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Reply#1 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 5:25 PM EDT

I'm sure it's ruined more relationships than it's created.

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Reply#2 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 5:35 PM EDT

That's also true, I know many relationships that have just caused more suffering than anything because of that game. I myself had also left the person I was in a relationship with to be with my husband. But I'm not complaining, I was better off. I found the person I was truly compatible and in love with. Even though it took me a trek across the continent, I am the happiest I could ever be now, so thanks WoW, lol.

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#2.1 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 9:57 AM EDT
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My son and his wife are known to hang out on WoW. Slaughtering ravening hordes together can be romantic, I guess, especially online. Not so much cleaning up of blood and gore to do, afterward. Don't even need to follow your familiar around with a pooper scooper. And if you get into an argument, no one is going to complain about a little swordplay.

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Reply#3 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 5:39 PM EDT

A popular but gender balanced game might work well. Having played WoW for a few years with several different guilds/servers I can give a reasonable estimate that those who frequently play in the group settings described in the article are 90+% male.

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Reply#4 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 5:57 PM EDT

Met my husband in another MMO, then we went to play WoW together after we had been together for a couple years. It is true that at least you have something in common. I am glad that my spouse understands my gaming addiction!

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Reply#5 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 6:17 PM EDT
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I met my husband on World of Warcraft. We played on the same faction and server and always found ourselves in the same guild. For 2 years we played and raided together and since he was a tank and I am a healer we had to talk a lot and most times we fought then in November this past year something changed and long story short, he moved from California to Indiana to be with me and now we are married and we both couldn't be happier and more in love.

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Reply#7 - Tue Apr 26, 2011 11:44 PM EDT

That's where me and my fiancée met! First I moved to Cali to be with him, now that our daughter is here, we moved to Michigan to be by my folks.

    Reply#8 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 12:37 AM EDT

    It's not just WoW, but many MMO games. I play Aion and it's great being able to meet so many people so easily. We all have something in common; an addiction to games! We can relate to each other a bit better that way.

    I do have to agree, though, there aren't very many girls playing. I'm a girl, but I sometimes have to use male toons so it would be easier to fit in .______.

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    Reply#9 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 9:05 AM EDT

    My husband and I met on World of Warcraft. We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary! It's definitely a lot easier to find people and meet people on World of Warcraft. You end up opening up to people and being yourself truly. That's exactly how me and my husband met and we are incredibly happy with each other. Who woulda thought that this game would find our soulmates across the continent!

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    Reply#10 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 9:26 AM EDT

    My girlfriend and I, and we are now talking about marriage, met several years ago while playing WoW. I also know several other couples who have the same. It is just a long distance relationship (where applicable) with a different method of meeting. With today's technology for communication and video conferencing the couple can feel more secure that they aren't being lied too. It works. However, WoW isn't the future of online dating for gamers, Single Gamers FTW is! ;p Just wanted to set the record straight of course.

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    Reply#11 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 9:42 AM EDT

    I am a gamer and I have to say a majority of gamers are males. The odds of finding a love interest in a game is pretty low. It happens, just not alot. I might try WoW because the people ( of both genders ) in my local area tend to have a lower than average IQ. And I qualify for the international high IQ society.

    I just don't see myself connecting with someone with that big of an intelligence gap. Gaming tends to be a good place to meet intellectuals.

      Reply#12 - Wed Apr 27, 2011 5:47 PM EDT

      I met my fiance playing world of warcraft.. We met in person 7 months after meeting in game and have been together for 6 years now.

        Reply#13 - Fri Jan 27, 2012 1:12 AM EST
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